聪明女人，别为男人付出太多

　聪明女人，别为男人付出太多


曾听到这样一个故事：一个女孩与一个男孩相恋了6年，在结婚的门槛上，男孩却以相互之间缺

少激情与女孩分手了，经过6年的马拉松式的恋爱，他们的感情可以 说是很深了，彼此都很了解

对方，女孩为男孩付出了很多很多，包括感情，金钱，身体，然而，男孩却没能给女孩一个家，

而半年之后，男孩却与一个刚认识4个月 的女孩结婚了。
　　
现实生活中，不乏这样的例子，男人与女人恋爱了好几年，快到结婚的时候男人提出了分手，理

由往往是相互之间不再吸引，男人分手后却在短时间内与另一个认识 不久的女人结婚了。似乎

几年的感情还敌不过几个月的新鲜和刺激。而这些被男人抛弃的女人，为男人付出了太多，耗尽

了她们的感情，结果什么也没有得到，在青 春的尾巴上哭泣。
　　

女人似乎天生爱付出，一旦认定之后，便会全心全意地付出自己的一切，甘愿为男人做一切，为

男人付出太多之后，到头来却什么也没得到，只剩下一颗破碎的心。 可是男人并不买女人的

帐，分手时，男人把女人的付出认为是理所当然的，不会因为女人过去的付出而留情，反而提出

一大堆分手的理由。
　　
女人这么做实在是不值得啊，在恋爱婚姻中，别为男人付出太多，不要丢失了自己。聪明的女人

懂得适当付出。
　　

感情的付出与收获是公平的，男人与女人共同付出，共同收获，感情的天平才能平衡，一方付

出太多，天平反而失去了平衡。
　　
所以，女人千万别自以为付出全部就能抓住男人的心，那是愚蠢的想法，在恋爱婚姻中，女人

要保持自己的独立，发展自己的个性，千万别丢失了自我。女人为男人付出太多，什么都为男人

操劳，男人只会把她当作保姆，而不是爱人！谁会跟一个保姆结婚呢？
　 　
感情也是有限的，有耗尽的一天，如果在恋爱时一下子付出太多，等于是在透支感情，感情完

了也就到了两人分手的时候了。而时间这个东西，对男人而言，可以增 加他们的阅历，对女人

而言，时间就是大敌，时间在一天天消耗女人的青春。女人在付出全部之后，在青春的尾巴上却

发现自己一无所有，自己所爱的男人并不能伴 自己走进婚姻殿堂。
　　
聪明的女人懂得怎么付出，该付出多少。
　　
聪明的女人不会为男人付出自己的一切，她们会留一份时间与关爱给自己的亲人、朋友，还有

自己；她们会懂得一个人享受生活，不把自己的精力全部放到爱情这个篮子里面；她们独立，永

远有自己的生活乐趣！
　　
聪明的女人懂得距离产生美，因此，她们会跟恋人保持一定的距离，保留一分神秘感。她们不

会整天围着男人转，而是花一部分精力去经营自己的事业，去联络自己的闺中密友，她们的快乐

源自内心，而不是源自他人。
　　
聪明的女人懂得：女人的独立、自信才是让男人永远着迷的！聪明的女人是为自己

而活，而不

是为他人，恰恰是这样的女人在男人眼里是最迷人的，最有魅力的！
　　
做个聪明的女人吧，别为男人付出太多，不要透支自己的感情，不要丢掉自我。
　　
这样的女人什么时候都是最美的！

SHOCKING!

back to work on thursday and there was this new colleague
she is young 20 years old
appearance everything about her is "normal"
there is one thing about her that "impress" me
she is not a "miss" but "mrs"
GOD!
and more shocking she is a MOTHER too!
MAN!
where is her young adult hood
what's wrong with the young ladies nowadays
LADIES... GALS...
hold ur desire

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SICK + SICKING PPLE

have been feeling unwell for past days
had a bad flu, sore throat, running nose and cough
had 2 days MC and resting at home all day long
during my MC cant stand my officer lo
DAMN
keep calling and asking me to go back to work
WHAT the HELL lol.. im sick man!
BITCH wake up ur F*** idea
if u dunno what is MC go ask ur doc
I am sure no one like being disturb especially when you are unwell
not feeling good how to work
other pple take MC she nv call, i take MC keep calling!
BITCH MAN!
cant stand them
and i could not rest well




THANK YOU MR WEE

thank you darling for taking me to the doctor
and
brought me leenie's yam rice
when i am so sick u were there for me
that was so sweet of you
i appreciated that
really

OFF DAY

today Wednesday my off day
gotta go for class later
today's MA lecture
i am feeling the stress again
more stress, more stress and endless stress
... .... ... ...
now i am feeling like what ferlis is feeling
wanna give up on everything
too many things come at one GO
i am not able to take it, seriously
everything seems hoepeless to me
dunno why i got this feeling
sigh
... ... ... ... ... !

上周星期六，在大巴窑走一圈刚巧碰上了那区的居民在庆祝中秋节。也刚巧让我碰上了正在台上上演的传统潮州京剧。真难得呀。。。！现在，已经很少可以看传统的戏曲了。很遗憾的是这们艺术也越来越少人懂得欣赏了，在十一世纪中，它也慢慢的在消失。要成为一位戏曲演员并非容易，长期的训练是艰苦的。而在这科技发达的时代里，人人都是看电影，电视的。哪还会有人要看大戏，更何况现代的年轻人听不懂方言。所以，潮州大戏和一些街头戏就更少见了。下次，你如果有经过不妨停下脚步来，听一听，看一看，这将被我们这一代遗忘的宝贵艺术。。。

these are the DANCE events coming up at Esplanade Theatre / studio...

Winds in the Void by Zurich Ballet (Switzerland)

Winds in the Void (In den Winden im Nichts) is described by critics as “fascinating” and “breathtaking”. Created by one of Europe’s most respected choreographers, Heinz Spoerli, and set to Bach’s cello suites performed by Claudius Herrmann of the Zurich Opera Orchestra, Winds in the Void is sheer poetry. Spoerli leads the dynamic Zurich Ballet, which under his charge, has gained an international reputation among the best classical ballet companies. He is greatly admired for his intelligent reinventions of the classics and brilliant abstract creations, all superbly executed by a company of athletic and technically solid dancers.

Date
11 Oct - 12 Oct 2007 8pm
VENUE: Esplanade Theatre

Silence by Kuik Swee Boon
Silence is anything but quiet. It moves to cacophonic environmental noise mixed with electronic pop by inter alia, Radiohead, Sigur Ros and Nine Inch Nails. The isolation and alienation of individuals result from their inability to find a place for themselves in this world. That which is spoken is often lost in the roar of everyday living. To listen, one must be silent. And in silence, all that remains is oneself.Choreographer Kuik Swee Boon explores the paradox of disconnectedness in an age of telecommunication breakthrough. The performance features an ensemble comprising dancers from Spain as well as from Singapore.

Date
12 Oct - 13Oct 2007 8pm
VENUE: Esplanade Studio

In my Father's House by Lasalle College of the Arts (Singapore)

Conceived by Singapore’s Tammy L Wong with additional dances choreographed by Ming-Lung Yang (Taiwan) and Loretta Livingston (USA), In My Father’s House is a contemporary dance that promises to provoke, inspire and heal. In the title work, Wong revisits her father’s house and finds a trail of broken and taunting memories. This is a collaborative effort between LASALLE’s School of Dance and The Puttnam School of Film, with original music by Alan Terricciano. Featuring students of LASALLE’s School of Dance, In My Father’s House presents dance talents of the future generation.

Stars of Russian Ballet - Ballet Gala with Prima Ballerina of Mariinsky (Kirov) Ballet, Ulyana Lopatkina

Russian ballet has never been more captivating and scintillating than in this star-studded production of Stars of Russian Ballet, featuring the acclaimed Ulyana Lopatkina, prima ballerina of the Mariinsky (Kirov) Ballet, and a company of award-winning soloists from the Kirov Ballet and the St Petersburg State Ballet Theatre. Displaying the virtuosic command and dramatic finesse that form the essence of Russian ballet, they perform excerpts from classics such as Swan Lake, Romeo & Juliet, The Nutcracker and Don Quixote, as well as from contemporary works by renowned choreographers including Nikolai Androsov, Alexei Ratmansky and Hans van Manen.

ah gong mooncake

yesterday, went to toa payoh ntuc and i saw this,

AH GONG MOONCAKE! wah..

damn traditional!

mum said that my ah gong used to eat this "teochew traditional mooncake"

with no double egg york, non melon seeds

just simple tasty

and

it really brought back the memories

when i was young, i really did eat something like that

and

i ate it with chinese tea

a mouth of the sweetness with a sip of chinese tea

it taste really good

well, you can try it out this mooncake festival

should make a good companion for my life.

now, i just need a sponsor.

anyone?

just kiddin. lol.

raining day

did i ever tell u i love raining day ... ... ?
raining day... ...
raining day always make me feel lazy ... ...
e cooling temperate make me feel good... ..
ya i love raining days...

what to do on raining days ... ... ?
have a hot bath...
have a cup of hot coffee ... ...
and watch ballet on a plasm TV...

or sleep all day long ... ...

wow.. feeling so relax now! AND it's my long week end again!
do not have to work on friday and saturday!
I LOVE RIANING DAYS!

I wanna tell him sooo bad

IT'S 7TH GRADE... I stared at the girl
next to me...She was my so
called "best friend"... I stared at
her... Long, silky hair... And I
wished she was mine... But she didn't
notice me like that... I knew it...
After class she walked up to me and
asked me for the notes she had missed
the day before... And I handed them to
her... She said "thanks"... And gave
me a kiss on the cheek... I wanted to
tell her... I want her to know that I
don't want to be "just friends"... I
love her but I'm too shy to tell
her... And I don't know why... IT'S
JUNIOR YEAR... My phone rang... On the
other end it was her... She was in
tears... Mumbling on and on about how
her love had broken her heart... She
asked me to come over because she
didn't want to be alone... So I did...
As I sat next to her on the sofa... I
stared at her soft eyes... Wishing she
was mine... After 2 hours... A Drew
Barrymore movie... And 3 bags of
chips... She decided to go to sleep...
She looked at me.. Said "thanks" and
gave me a kiss on the cheek... I
wanted to tell her... I want her to
know... That I don't want to be "just
friends"... I love her but I'm too shy
to tell her... And I don't know why...
IT'S SENIOR YEAR... The day before
prom... She walked to my locker... "My
date is sick" she said... He's not
going to go... Well... I didn't have a
date and in 7th grade... We made a
promise that if neiter of us had
dates... We'd go together just
as "best friends"... And so we did...
IT'S PROM NIGHT... After everything
was over with... I was standing at her
front door step... I stared at her ...
She smiled at me... I wanted her to be
mine... But she doesn't think of me
like that... And I know it... Then she
said "I had the best time...
Thanks!"... And she gave me a kiss on
the cheek... I wanted to telll her...
I wanted her to know that I don't want
to be "just friends"... I love her but
I'm just too shy... And I don't know
why... IT'S GRADUATION DAY... A day
passed... And then a week... And then
a month... Before I could blink... It
was graduation day... I watched her...
Perfect body... Floated like an angel
up on stage to get her diploma... I
wanted her to be mine... But she
doesn't think of me that way... And I
know it... Before everyone went
home... She came to me in her smock
and hat... And cried as I hugged
her... Then she lifted her head from
my shoulders and said "you're my best
friend"... "Thanks!"... And gave me a
kiss on the cheek... I wanted to tell
her.. I wanted to know that I wanted
to be more than "just friends"... I
love her but I'm too shy... And I
don't know why... IT'S A FEW YEARS
LATER... Now I sit in the pews of the
church... A church that she is getting
married in now... I watched her say "I
do" an drive off to her new life...
Married to another man... I wanted her
to be mine... But she didn't see me
like that... And I knew it... But
before she drove away... She came to
me and said "You came!... Thanks!"...
And she kissed me on the cheek... I
wanted to tell her... I wantd her to
know that I didn't want to be "just
friends"... I love her but I'm just
too shy... And I don't know why...
YEARS PASSED... I looked down at the
coffin of a girl who used to be
my "best friend"... At the service
they read a diary entry she had wrote
in her high school years... This is
what it said... "I stare at him...
Wishing he was mine... But he doesn't
notice me like that... And I know
it... I wanted to tell him... I wanted
him to know... That I don't want to
be "just friends"... I love him but
I'm just too shy... And I don't know
why... I wish he would tell me he
loved me"... I wish I did too... I
thought to myself and I cried... THIS
IN THE NEXT 20 MINUTES AND
SOMEONE WILL TELL YOU THEY
LOVE YOU AND WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR
YOU... BUT IF YOU BREAK THIS CHAIN YOU
WILL HAVE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS FOR
THE NEXT 13 YEARS!! SINCE U OPENED
THIS SOMETHING GOOD WILL HAPPEN TO U
AT 11:52 PM
IF YOU'RE A GIRL\BOY POST THIS AS "I
WANNA TELL HIM\HER SOOO BAD"

看了今天的新闻报道，挺意外看到这则新闻：

原来 新加坡三所公立大学的学生 毕业后的首选工作是向往银行和金融业。即使是非本科生，如工程系和其他非商业系毕业生，也希望能到银行界工作。而最受到毕业生欢迎的私人业界雇主是花旗银行(CitiBank)，瑞士信贷第一波士顿（Credit Swiss)，德意志银行(Deutsche Bank) 以及摩根大 通银行(JPMorgan Chase)。新加坡- 本地银行的名次则排在较后面，星展集团排在第14位，大华银行第29位，华侨银行则排在第43位。



为什么，学生们都想到银行和金融界工作呢？是新姿高和有浅能吗?但是，压力也很高呀！所谓，“拿人钱财，替人消灾”。公司能用高薪俜请你，当然那工作量也会提高，压力也会跟着上升。因为天下没有什么是免费的，尤其是在这竞争的时代。所以，选着工作前一定要想清楚，不要进错行，要不然会导致更多的压力。

random photo... ...

hasn't been posting formore than a week le.. I have been too lazy le! feeling quite stress with school work, thank god one assignment down! now, my group is focusing on MA as the deadline for submition is next week! anyway, it is almost done. thank you to elanie and ezenn whom had put in more time into this assignment. but still have 3 more assignments to go.
next, work has been pretty alright. but there still people leaving. SL has left. she claimed that this is not her "dream" job. therefore she left after 2 months with us. and the new RM also has left he found that this job is too stressful. TWO GONE! guess kelly is also leaving as she had already tendered but aga somehow managed to convince her to stay till end of this month. and Anna is leaving too! early next month she will be going to department. So sad! from march 2007 till now which is only half a year but there are so many changes, so many people has left. eileen, adeline, ailing, winnie, sylvia, rose, cleo, SL and now anna and maybe kelly too. anyway, people come and go, perhaps i will be leaving too, who knows what's coming up.


SL all e best t u... ...


goodbye my character shoes... ...

my dear character shoes has been with me since i was in grade 6, which is like 6 years ago. i have been keeping it cos it had gone through with me my exams and many practices. my dance grow with it and i reali love it cant bear to be apart with "her"! now i am feeling a little sad as i am giving it away to another little gal who loves ballet. well, i should be happy rite cos if i am gonna to keep it in my cupboard "she " cant dance, but if i give "her" away she will be able to dnace again! ya rite... ! I am going to miss "her"... ...

goodbye my dear character shoes... ... and i love ballet... ...

I took a cab home from boon lay, NTU. it has been a very long time since i last travel by taxi home from a long distance. this brought back my memories yrs back when mr wee and i just got together. today, i spent the whole day with mr wee, as it has been quite sometime we actually spend 12 hrs together. remembered the times when he was doing his NSF, he book out during the weekends. he always meet me once he book out, send me home after my work. Then on Sunday night I would go with him to Teck Whye where his camp was, den we had dinner together. after he had book in i would then travel all the way from chua choa kang to hougang. sometimes we were too lazy to take bus we would travel by cab. so this is the moment that bought back my memories when i was in the taxi just now. to my mum she may think i am wasting my time and money. but at that point of time was very sweet, cos u want to spend as much time as possible with him.
but 3 1/2 years later, we have grown up, work and school work keep us so busy. he has tons of school assignments to be completed and even for Saturdays he will want to stay home and study. i know as it is his last year of studies, it's a critic time for his studies in order to obtaining his honours. i should be more understanding or perhaps should even study together with him instead of grumbling for not going shopping with me.
most of the time we are like being impatient with each other. i agree most of the time it's my fault, i know i am hot tempered at times. i tried to control my temper but i just couldnt. most probably due to stress ba.
anyway, i will try to be a better gf la...
mr wee must be working on his ppt now, jia you k ..
*Huggies*

time past really fast, another week has past or rather another month has past. today is 1st of September already, embarking 3/4 of the year 2007. And I am still doing the same things, stay put with the same job, staying on with the same bf, still wearing the same old clothings, still forming same study group, still studying in the same school, same course and still meeting up with the usual few good friends, going to the same places. MY LIFE IS "BORING"! well my life style may be a little too boring but i like it this way, simply and carefree, doing things at my own pace. i dun like to cope with many things and too hectic lifestyle. i am a simply perosn that is why simply lifestyle just right for me.
days a ago heard frorm casey that winnie had left citibank. i was quite surprised to hear that cos she came back to branch few weeks back, i saw her was pretty alright and seemed happy with the working environment, really didnt expect she would tender so fast, within 3 months. anyway, wish her all the best. jia you, winnie the pooh.... ! : )
so now from what winnie had experienced, the thought of going to another bank seem scary to me. as now i had switch to back end, i am pretty comfortable with the job scope. but i know the prospect of this position, it's not as good or as fast to get promoted compare to sales or front liners. i like back end cos not so stressful i can monitor my own timing, as for front line, i cant stand ctmrs! anyway, it is still too far for me to think of all these. i am happy with what i amdoing now, that's good enough!
life should be 开心就好。。